Reasons to not discuss another person’s wedding budget:
There’s only one – Because It’s none of your fucking business
If you were to show someone your new house, car, a vacation you had taken, would they immediately ask you the cost? No. We understand that those are personal and high ticket purchases, and how someone else chooses to spend their money is not our business.
So, the big question is why do we forget these rules when it comes to a person’s wedding?
Your wedding budget is yours, your partner(s), and your wedding planner’s business (should you choose to have one) and nobody else’s.
A wedding is a deeply personal event, for you and your partner(s) to celebrate your love and connection in the way that you want.
Whether that means a destination wedding, an elopement, pulling out all the stops for an over-the-top wedding at an over-the-top venue, or anything in between, that is YOUR decision.
Planning your wedding is about incorporating all of the things you want and care about, and nothing that you don’t.
Wedding budgets are complicated, with dozens, if not hundreds, of products, rentals, and services that need to be accounted for. Weddings are also expensive, with the average 100 person wedding costing marriers $40,000.
When planning your wedding it is up to you and your wedding planner to use the budget you have to make it work best for you. A lot of the time this may mean sacrificing one thing for another. For example, having fewer guests for a nicer venue or keeping catering simple so you can rock that designer dress/suit you dreamed of.
There is no right or wrong way to have a wedding, and there is no right or wrong way to build your wedding budget.
Remember: you will never please everyone, so focus on pleasing yourself.
Of course we couldn’t finish this blog without talking about small weddings, so here’s a few reminders:
It is okay to cut your guest list to spend money on things that are most important to you
Reminder: small weddings are never selfish!
Just because you can afford more guests does not mean you are ever obligated to invite them.
A small wedding does not always mean a less expensive wedding
Small weddings are about intimacy and personalization. While cutting the guest list can help you cut the final bill it doesn’t always have to.
It is okay to invest in luxury in some areas and not in others
Having a small wedding does not always mean having a small budget that does not allow for a longer guest list. Small weddings are intentional and personal, and choosing to invest in luxury at a small wedding does not open the floor for anyone to ask about your budget. Your wedding is your wedding is your wedding, and it’s nobody else’s fucking business how you plan it, how much it costs you, or how you celebrate your love.